1. Which mods/admins were being Power Tripping Bastards?
https://quokk.au/u/Deceptichum
2. What sanction did they impose (e.g. community ban, instance ban, removed comment)?
74 year community ban for ‘homophobia’
3. Provide a screenshot of the relevant modlog entry (don’t de-obfuscate mod names).
4. Provide a screenshot and explanation of the cause of the sanction (e.g. the post/comment that was removed, or got you banned).
here’s the exchange that resulted in the ban:
5. Explain why you think its unfair and how you would like the situation to be remedied.
I’m gay, trans, and an anarchist. I thought the post title was misogynistic, objectifying, and not a good example something that should be in a ‘queer friendly’ space.
Not everyone is okay with sexual degradation humor, misogynistic comments, etc, even if it’s about people you disagree with. Pointing that out in this case got me called a homophobic tankie and banned within minutes of making the post.
I don’t see how it’s misogynistic. Definitely sexually crude, but there’s nothing gendered about the insult, as compared to words like cunt or dickhead. Both men and women can use cumrags (or be used as one).
Wondering if this was a spin on the word comrade being close to cumrag as well.
my reading is that misogyny isn’t just about whether the target is female, and obviously on a surface read anyone can be a cumrag, or use one.
the use as an insult still relies on demeaning traits that our culture associates with women or femininity. gay men can still have internalized misogyny
Even though “cumrag” can apply across all genders, the primary meaning has been “a thing used to wipe up semen,” and “a person treated like a used-up sexual object.”
the people getting framed as:
passive
used
disposable
interchangeable
something sex “happens” to
are women, femmes, and bottoms coded as feminine.
I can feel empowered by describing myself as a slut, cumrag, whatever, and use the term affectionately for others. however using those as insults on anyone I disagree with is still reproducing misogyny
I guess I’ve led a sheltered life, because the first definition is the only one I thought of initially. But since you’ve pointed it out I get the issue with it now. I was equating it in my head with something more like “asswipe” initially. But even without the misogyny aspect, the ban was still PTB.
In a similar vein, describing one person submitting or otherwise going along with what another wills as “dickriding” or other similar sexual act is also baked in misogyny and homophobia. The cultural shame levied against gay men, women in general, etc. is why it’s supposed to hurt to be called a dickrider for someone, rather than just a sycophant. Both are pejoratives, one relies on that cultural shame.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. I don’t necessarily agree but I appreciate it nonetheless
This is some go go gadget arms level of reaching.
This is some ostrich-head-in-the-sand lack of awareness.
Yeah, in the sense that it’s a made up myth.
Misogyny is a made up myth, you’re right! Here let me highlight the important part for you, dummy.
This is true. The effects are more than just on women.
I feel true pity for you. Please go away. Downvote first though!
Glad to see condescension is still beneath you!
In this specific case, yeah.