• sem@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    4 hours ago

    That is so weird to me that a society with much more Shame basis for stuff does not shame attraction to and relationships with minors.

    On the other hand I’ve always wondered when is shame effective as a social motivator to prevent misdeeds, and when does it push people to hide their problems instead of seeking help and solutions?

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      47 minutes ago

      Well if the powers that be shamed attraction to and relationships with minors, they would have to accept that forcing themselves on people who aren’t in a position to refuse consent is shameful, and then they would have to answer some very uncomfortable questions about what some of their heroes did in Korea and China …

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      3 hours ago

      That is so weird to me that a society with much more Shame basis for stuff does not shame attraction to and relationships with minors.

      Because what a culture considers immoral is not the same as whether they use shame to police immorality.

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        55 minutes ago

        You make an important distinction. I don’t understand why they wouldn’t consider it immoral when in the west it seems intrinsically immoral to most people.

        I’ve read Naomi and Memoirs of a Geisha so Ive had some exposure to some of the cultural ideas, but i guess I’m looking for a scholarly article or educational text explaining the differences

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          1 minute ago

          not intrinsically, at least not for long. in most of europe it was legal up until the 90s and there were even porno mags that ran specials.

          …i do compulsive late night wiki walks, before you ask how i know that. i had a period where i read up on what happened to the “flower power” generation with all their “free love” stuff and that came up. i tend to do breadth-first search so i just read through articles while opening all the links in the background, then go down a level, etc etc. when a term like that comes up on a wiki page it triggers your fight-or-flight response.