• danekrae@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    Frankly I dont see a reason to handle them with kid gloves.

    Other than the reason I wrote? This advise is not only for facists; but everybody trying to avoid cognitive dissonance.

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      4 days ago

      They will double down regardless of how I disagree with them. Nobody can force them to see the error of their ways through conversation. Sadly jt must be a reckoning. Im all for being there to pick up the pieces once they have the realization, but I believe words are not enough to bring that about in most cases.

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        4 days ago

        Sadly jt must be a reckoning. Im all for being there to pick up the pieces once they have the realization

        So you won’t converse with them, and it seems like you don’t want to be involved with the reckoning, but is ready for when the difficult part is over. Did I understand that correctly?

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      5 days ago

      I mean they’re talking to you nicely and you won’t change your mind. So why does it fucking matter how nicely they engage these hateful imbeciles? It’s a waste of time.

      • danekrae@lemmy.world
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        4 days ago

        I mean they’re talking to you nicely and you won’t change your mind.

        Because I haven’t heard logic, they have never tricked me into a corner where I would have to admit to myself “I supported evil”, “I was tricked” or “am I a hypocrite”. But if you are good enough at arguing, you could change my mind.

        • EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          4 days ago

          Unfortunately, this isn’t how it usually goes, and few people are good enough at that to convince somebody. Most arguments end with neither side convincing the other of anything important. Humans are emotional creatures, and feelings often are justified into “facts” even long after they’ve been outright proven false.

          People have tried this with Republicans for at least the past 20 years, and look at where we are now. All it did was allow the racists to couch their open bigotry behind the lie of “it’s just a joke,” and respond to any real pushback against their hate with “so much for the tolerant left.”

          They’re a cult, and there’s one depressing fact about cults: the deeper in someone is, the harder it is to pull them out - and after a certain point, it’s almost impossible. There’s a sunk cost fallacy to their beliefs that becomes harder and harder to shake because to admit that they’re wrong would be to admit that their actions aren’t justified and their core beliefs are bad.

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            4 days ago

            Unfortunately, this isn’t how it usually goes, and few people are good enough at that to convince somebody.

            That certainly is a big problem, as you can see from the other comments.

            • EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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              4 days ago

              Exactly what I was thinking. The most effective way to fight bigotry is through lived experience, and that’s one of the reasons that it’s such a huge problem in the US outside of the cities. Most Americans will never leave their state and will die within 25 miles of where they were born.