Edit: I do not understand why I am getting downvoted here? It should be fairly obvious that this is not a sexual thing? Do people disagree with it being beautiful?
Edit: I do not understand why I am getting downvoted here? It should be fairly obvious that this is not a sexual thing? Do people disagree with it being beautiful?
Dude read what you said. You’re like happy you can gawk your wife put the boob to your baby’s face or some shit. Its weird, and theres no way to word it that sounds how you intend.
No heart confirmed
You can’t word that to not sound creepy. We get it, its encapsulates all micro and macros and the cycles of the universe, but you can’t say “I like to watch my baby be breastfed” without sounding a little creepy.
I mean… breastfeeding is a natural part of human and mammal existence. If you see it happening as a father or relative, then you’re seeing a sign that things seem to be going healthily and relatively happily.
You also have to remember that what was likely part of your earlier attraction to your mate (reproductive organs) can later be seen in a completely different light. The breasts as a mechanism of nourishment, and of course the birth canal, delivering new life (and your personal offspring) in to the world.
So in these cases, there’s a sense of transformation of one’s viewpoint. Which can indeed be impressive, breathtaking, and yeah… beautiful. I don’t see any reason any of that would necessarily be “creepy” for the person having that experience.
Should have tagged you in my comment above:
@comradepenguin@lemmy.ml
Try saying “I like watching babies breastfeed” without sounding creepy right now.
Liking to watch the mother of your child care for that child, is not creepy. He didnt say he liked watching all women breastfeed, he said he liked watching his wife nurturing their baby, and exressed a change in world view on the supject, which is pretty cool.
Got it. So just strip away all that relevant context and pretend that it’s some babies-breastfeeding fetish, and not actually father-child-mother related.
So here’s a question-- would you say you’ve personally graduated from a certain horndog phase of younger life, one in which it’s all too easy to view women as objects? And are you a father yourself?
You’re trying really really hard to shame me here or something. But go for it dude. Be mad I said that. Have at it. Because it is true. “Oh yay I can finally watch my wife breastfeed the baby!” Just enjoy your child, no need to announce that you can finally watch them eat like a thorn has been removed from your side. Either way, the post is weird. I have seen all of my.kids breastfeed and never felt the need to announce it, or say anything at all about it. Its weird to do that.
When my tits were full back in the day, I could squirt milk across the room. I just made an image in my head squirting you with breast milk, mid way through your words here, and had a good laugh.
Let people engage with the content man. Why you gatekeeping expressions of joy?
I forgot when I dislike something it prevents everyone else from posting about it sorry.
I’m not aware of anyone here trying “really hard to shame you.” Sorry if I came on too strong there, mate.
Alright, 'preciate your honesty, there. So evidently you never felt your attitude about breastfeeding transform from pre-fatherhood to post-fatherhood, is that correct? But yeah, I can definitely understand not every dad having that journey of sorts, and that’s just how that works.
As for being ‘weird,’ I can certainly understand how some might feel that way (just look at the vote score!), but to me, I rather appreciated OP’s thoughts in a place which is of course “ShowerThoughts” and nothing more remarkable than that. I actually do admire the honesty and bit of bravery by OP saying that, especially as it gets back to what I mentioned earlier-- the transformative qualities of being in long relationships.
If that’s still not making sense, part of what I’m trying to get at is that when we’re young, our hormones tend to have a major role in our mutual attraction, and then in the child-raising phase, things can shift considerably, and we can see each other with amazingly different eyes. Including ‘sexual’ matters. And then, as we age, our romantic relationships can shift in many ways in terms of nuance of friendship. And for sure, sadly or unsadly, we can also grow shockingly apart from someone we once loved dearly.
Bah. Mini-essay that nobody needed to hear… XD
Lot of assumptions here. I’m on my 4th, whatever desensitization you think I haven’t been through I have. It doesn’t make this any less weird. My girl would look at me like I’m weird if I said “Y’know babe I just love watching you breastfeed, its so beautiful”. Its just one of those things you appreciate and dont bother putting into words because that makes it weird. Some things dont need to be expressed through words, and those same things definitely come across as weird when posted about online to share with everyone. Thats what I mean, the act of breastfeeding itself or even just seeing it isn’t weird. Its the announcement and speaking of it that mangles the moment.
Hmm… Why is it weird? Is this some puritanical breasts = sex thing?
It’s the most natural thing in the world. A newborn having a loving moment with its mom. Watching breastfeeding does not necessarily entail “gawking” at the breast itself.
Yeah yeah yeah thats not what I meant. I meant theres no way to state your opinion of this without sounding weird.
to you. without it sounding wierd to you
Alright going around each part of this thread with your own response hours later is annoying.
Man discovers how forums work for the first time, mind is …annoyed.
I could walk through each point you felt you absolutely needed to respond as you scrolled this
like a sane normal person!? never ;)
I feel like if you can read a thread in one go you can respond in kind. But you probably wanted to blast me with notifications.