I’ve had my first job for a year now. My partner got his dream job which requires us to move. My job had an office in that state. But because of stupid in person team rules from this aloof dipshit VP (came from Amazon surprise surprise) they won’t let me move and keep working.
I thought if I could be reasonable and up front they would work with me. But now I’m just a corpse to them. Already working on replacing me. Even though it will be more expensive and might tank the project per the teams advice. I’m on 4 hours sleep right now so might just be ranting.
But I am disconcerted by the level of visceral hatred I feel towards this VP. So detached, so caught up in vapid buzzwords. Where do these people come from. Why are there so many of them in positions of power. How do I handle these feelings without making my partner feel guilty.
I’ve probably made a straw man out of him. He probably has a family and interests. I don’t like how I feel this way. I’ve never felt this way. I don’t want to go back out into the job market.
Trying to empathize will probably make it worse because it will never be reciprocated and that hurts. I bet it would be easier to deal with if you accept that he is your adversary and you don’t owe him anything.
At least it will mean you will never have to interact with this particular person again. I think it’s ok to hate someone, just channel that into removing their ability to make decisions that affect you.
Yes, VPs and C-suite do not work for the employees, they work for the shareholders
I think you brought up an important point. There is no reason to empathize with the bad boss. And also it’s quite likely that the boss is in fact a bad person in general in their life.