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So after years I decided to see what online dating is and got some apps. It is shit. These apps exist to make money, of course.
Years ago when I was still using them, I h a dozens of likes and matches within a few days. Now it is 4 across two apps. Not even a match. And I’m a decent looking guy with interests that don’t involve looking like a serial killer.
Capitalism has to ruin everything it seems lol. Actually getting matches isn’t in their best interest even if you pay them (which I don’t). Back to approaching people then, I guess.
Yeah, it’s pretty bad. Many of them are owned by the same parent company Match Group now and even the ones that aren’t still tend to do much the same design patterns. A near guaranteed one now from what I’ve seen is the apps expecting you to “verify” yourself, which means letting them scan your face to see if it matches your photos, and trusting they aren’t doing anything weird with that data. They claim this is to help with scams or whatever but I live in the US, I just assume at this point that data is being gathered for nefarious purposes.
Then there’s the people who are actually using the apps. I remember the time I got anywhere at all a year or two ago (which wasn’t much, because I’d rarely be able to get to the point of messaging back and forth), I managed to get to the point of messaging with like 2 people over months of nothing. Both times, when I tried to arrange a low pressure meetup so it wouldn’t end up as pen pal only, either I got ghosted or the attempts to plan it never went anywhere.