Unlike Reddit where you can lurk because there’s so much noise already, it’s quieter here and you get out of it what you put into it. If someone is an ass, block them; you don’t owe them anything.

Lemmy is the most well known, but there’s also piefed and mbin (I’m on piefed) and they all interact with each other (or we couldn’t be talking). Maybe check them out and see if you like one of the others better.

Karma never mattered, but doubly so here.