• Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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    10 days ago

    No, that’s more of a Reddit thing.

    Lemmings have been much more reasonable and supportive in my experience, even kind.

    Even when someone disagrees with me vehemently, they might use rude words to tell me just how full of shit my comment is, but they don’t say “you should kill yourself” like redditors used to (before I left, who knows now that it’s all bots).

    I hope it stays that way. Anonymity can bring out cruelty, but it can also allow people to express themselves warmly without social posturing.

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      10 days ago

      I’ve had the opposite experience.

      Most common failure point seems to be people not actually reading my comment properly, and attacking me based on what they “think” I wrote; usually some polarised version that twists my meaning completely. Like in this example, imagine someone replying “so you’re saying all Lemmy users are illiterate assholes?!?!” Then everyone agrees with them for some reason, it’s pointless trying to clarify at that point.

      I’ve stopped contributing as much because I can’t be bothered dealing with the nuclear fallout anymore.

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          10 days ago

          Thanks :)

          I remove my own upvote from my comments because I like when it starts at 0

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            10 days ago

            Oh! That’s interesting, does it ever cause folks to hop on the downvote train? (If you answer I won’t see it until tomorrow, I’m shutting down for bed) Anyway, “because I like it” is a good enough reason!

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              10 days ago

              I do sometimes wonder if people see the 0, and that biases their opinion or something. More often I get confused replies wondering why my comment seems broken though 😂

              I’m a retired programmer, so starting at 0 makes sense to me. I always thought it was weird that you “like” your own comments by default. I don’t like them, I’m neutral towards them.

              I used to do it on Reddit as well, but they disabled that feature. Unironically one of the reasons I left that place lol

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                9 days ago

                Well I would defend your right to make your comments satisfy yourself with that nice round zero.

                In rebuttal I would argue that, if it means anything, an upvote is supposed to signify “this comment deserves to be here,” it contributes to the conversation.

                In an election, if you don’t want yourself to win enough to vote for yourself, you shouldn’t be running. You should just let the other person have it if you think they’d do better.

                But I’ll grant you that since it’s not an election, putting the comment out there is enough. And from what I can see yours all do add value.