I’ve embraced it. With exes on good terms I know I’m someone they had a good time with but it ended for some reason. For one woman I’m a damaged bitch who threw away something good to be a slut (I realized monogamy wasn’t something I could agree to after she told me she needed it, didn’t cheat), and for the woman she and I had been dating at the time I’m still a bad ex, but I was one of the least bad exes she’d had yet.

I also had one woman who pressured me into romantic stuff I absolutely didn’t want who actually did try to spread damaging lies about me, but people in the community believed me over her because she kept pulling the same crap and I was a respected member of the community. That one sucked, but nothing she pulled after was half as bad as an afternoon during.