Probably 1/2 of the users on this platform are here as a protest against Reddit. Either the API stuff, or the admins nuking your account, or the mods being… goofy. Or the users, or who knows what.

What’s your story?

  • Tollana1234567@lemmy.today
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    6 hours ago

    something tells me that is r/adultchildrenofnarcassist new mods are right wingers, trying to say parents are not at fault for causing children to hate him, are unemployed, unable to move out of the house, or refusing to house the parents when they retire. it sounds convoluted but alot of stories like this, have a very boomer center to it. why is the 30-40yo woman not having a job, or moving out, or whatever(usually its the sibling complaining)

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      5 hours ago

      It used to be a place to see that other people had similar issues with their parents and had links to other resources for people doing research. So of course someone found out the children were talking bad about their parents and brought the parents to come supervise. The perfectly manicured, sharpened fingernail at the tip of the slap to the face was that the new mod removed some of the helpful links, like this one: https://issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons/ that distills the issue down to such a condensed form that I wouldn’t have thought it possible. You’d might as well stand outside an AA meeting and offer free airplane bottles to people walking in as pull that kind of maneuver.

      I’m not trying to draw equivalencies between people’s trauma, or elevate one or dismiss others, but if a group of people found a spot to sit and talk quietly about shared experiences, then it’s better to let them alone. $RDDT couldn’t have drawn up a mission statement that more clearly stated that they weren’t there to help, and any help derived from their platform was accidental and subject to their “adjustment” at any times.

      And just in case anyone missed it, the link that the mod removed from a subreddit by and for Adult Children of Narcissists was this one: https://issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons/

      EDIT: added a piece to a sentence to make a thought more fully formed.