Terms like “transgender” [T], trans-masculine [TM] or trans-feminine [TF] are equally as informative but not unpleasant and dysphoric as “male-to-female” and “female-to-male”, which by many people are and will be viewed negatively.

Since posting and sexting is supposed to be about about fun and pleasure, I suggest changing the current rules to make space more inviting and accepting for different people. (:

Due to the mod request, I am personally fine with changing my gender tags ([F] (trans)) to [NB] for the time being and abstain from further posting as I’m principally opposed to refering to myself as “male to female” instead of “trans-feminine” or simply “transgender woman”. There is no need to introduce each post with implication of being “half a man” or “formerly a man” and the like.

It’s not that I am deeply offended or pretentious, but rather not taking pleasure from being grouped together with men [M] whenever I want to post something sexy.

P.S. I was otherwise very happy with my experience and enjoyed all the posts, comments and interactions (; <3

Cheers

  • NyxAiri@fedinsfw.appOPEnglish
    3·
    8 days ago

    Would you like to also verify which women are fertile and breedable before they post porn? Should infertile men without both functional testicles be excluded from [M] tag?

    Trans bodies on hormones or post- op usually smell and feel to the touch like their cisgender counterparts. Apparently even some doctors can’t differentiate genitals from neogenitals.

    Clearly fertility is not the main reason these tags exist. 😝 Yes I’m all for separate [T] gender tags but it doesn’t have anything to do with fertility or breedability.

    • tits@fedinsfw.appEnglish
      12·
      8 days ago

      I can’t speak for everyone, though I suspect I’m the average viewer of the [F] filter. For me, it’s 100% about breedability. Hormones and surgery can’t change what matters. An infertile woman still has the equipment, even if some of it’s faulty. No comment on [M], it’s not my interest.

      I know this isn’t what some people want to hear, but that’s how sexual attraction works for me, and likely most viewers of the [F] tag. Sorry, but it is what it is.

      • FluyOnTheWall@fedinsfw.appEnglish
        4·
        8 days ago

        As a viewer of the F tag, I’m fairly certain you are wrong about most of “us”.

        To me, what’s attractive about a person or their post is the thought of what I might want to do with them and/or they with me. Those fantasies almost never feature getting someone pregnant. More likely they feature the opposite, actually. In general, I feel like most people are here for the process, not the potential result. ^^