I agree with you, but I also acknowledge that the less severe it is, the easier it is to guide someone out of it. My now best friend was quite a racist, sexist, homophobic piece of shit when he was a teenager, but learned to move past all of that and is an ardent activist against all types of prejudice now. He understands what our ancestors knew, that simply feeling bad about past actions and beliefs isn’t enough, that one should do what they can to make up for them.
Yeah, I have some compassion for kids who are on that path, because I was there when I was a kid, though not as bad as your friend. Thankfully, I had some friends who cared enough to pull me aside and tell me how I was being a fuck head and to be better.
A lot of people have shitty parents who pass on their toxicity to their kids, who have to actively repair the damage done to them before they knew how bad that behavior was. I saw a comment from @wopalopa@lemmy.world the other day that really stuck with me, because it really resonated with my experience:
its not your fault for turning that way. but its your fault for keeping that way.
I agree with you, but I also acknowledge that the less severe it is, the easier it is to guide someone out of it. My now best friend was quite a racist, sexist, homophobic piece of shit when he was a teenager, but learned to move past all of that and is an ardent activist against all types of prejudice now. He understands what our ancestors knew, that simply feeling bad about past actions and beliefs isn’t enough, that one should do what they can to make up for them.
Yeah, I have some compassion for kids who are on that path, because I was there when I was a kid, though not as bad as your friend. Thankfully, I had some friends who cared enough to pull me aside and tell me how I was being a fuck head and to be better.
A lot of people have shitty parents who pass on their toxicity to their kids, who have to actively repair the damage done to them before they knew how bad that behavior was. I saw a comment from @wopalopa@lemmy.world the other day that really stuck with me, because it really resonated with my experience: