If there is something inherently wrong/unethical about a circumstance that elicits broad public negative reactions, then the legality of it should be called into question. Posts criticizing relationships due to age gaps fixate on notions that age-experience gaps necessarily involve conversion and/or abuse - if that’s true, then we ought to do something about said abuse, which is why age of consent laws exist. If 19 year olds are not capable of making adult decisions, then they ought not be considered adults. If they are adults, they should be respected in their decisions, unless other information regarding conversion and/or abuse exists.
OPs mene is suggesting conversion and abuse where I have not otherwise seen any evidence. Corgan may be a piece of shit for many reasons, but suggestions that Mendel has been powerless in the relationship due to simple age-differences erases her personhood, especially if we want to agree that people are adults by 19.
It’s not that I don’t understand the issue, it’s that the framing of the issue is primarialy from a Puritan sensibility that posits women are inherently victims of predator men, which does nothing to enhance women’s personhood or rational ability. It’s incredibly similar to sex work discourses where women are described as inherently victims and incapable of engaging in sex work or their own volition.
If there is something inherently wrong/unethical about a circumstance that elicits broad public negative reactions, then the legality of it should be called into question. Posts criticizing relationships due to age gaps fixate on notions that age-experience gaps necessarily involve conversion and/or abuse - if that’s true, then we ought to do something about said abuse, which is why age of consent laws exist. If 19 year olds are not capable of making adult decisions, then they ought not be considered adults. If they are adults, they should be respected in their decisions, unless other information regarding conversion and/or abuse exists.
OPs mene is suggesting conversion and abuse where I have not otherwise seen any evidence. Corgan may be a piece of shit for many reasons, but suggestions that Mendel has been powerless in the relationship due to simple age-differences erases her personhood, especially if we want to agree that people are adults by 19.
It’s not that I don’t understand the issue, it’s that the framing of the issue is primarialy from a Puritan sensibility that posits women are inherently victims of predator men, which does nothing to enhance women’s personhood or rational ability. It’s incredibly similar to sex work discourses where women are described as inherently victims and incapable of engaging in sex work or their own volition.