I lost NNN and I regret it (every year I’m lying to myself by saying that I’ll do it this year, but hey, nothing I can do about it; tho the best thing that I can do for now is to survive till the end of the month with an imaginary HP left). Honestly, that’s only the tip of the iceberg when it comes down to the way masturbation addiction (won’t call it porn addiction, since the spectre of things that I was doing while ‘‘doing it’’ is substantially wider than that) has affected me. Won’t get into much detail, but it’s pretty bad. Gotta be honest with myself. Might be wrong, or right, but I feel like an important part of it is the fact that I’m still a virgin. I would love to hear anyone willing to share his thoughts with me. Your effort is much appreciated!

P.S. also, I’m posting this as a timestamp in my journey of battling this cheap butt addiction, literally

P.P.S. feel free to ask any questions

P.P.P.S. thanks for all the support, guys, you’re awesome

  • mentalcel@reddthat.com
    15·
    4 days ago

    “incel” is not a movement or a commutity, its a life circumstance when one experiences celibacy involuntarily. You should stop using that as an insult

      • mentalcel@reddthat.com
        25·
        4 days ago

        Wikipedia is biased, and in this case its straight up wrong. See their ‘circumcision’ article for example

          • mentalcel@reddthat.com
            15·
            4 days ago

            ‘incel’ is a life circumstance that has been existing for thousands of years, not an “internet subculture”. The closest thing to that is probably some internet forums

            • remon@ani.social
              2·
              4 days ago

              If you only want to use the word in the narrow literal sense, fine.

              I don’t think that’s very useful. We don’t really need a special word for a virgin that can’t get laid. But we do need one that describes when people start blaming all women and form a misogynistic mindset around it. That’s how I choose to understand and use the term.

              • mentalcel@reddthat.com
                15·
                4 days ago

                But we do need one that describes when people start blaming all women and form a misogynistic mindset around it. That’s how I choose to understand and use the term.

                That’s like calling every criminal a n***er because of stereotypes associated with black people

                • remon@ani.social
                  2·
                  4 days ago

                  No, it’s not anything like that. My point was exactly the opposite: If you’re just a virgin that can’t get laid but you deal with it like a normal human being, you’re not an incel. Just a virgin and there is nothing wrong with that.

                  It’s would be more like calling every one has every played a game a gamer. Technically true, but utterly useless as term.

                  • mentalcel@reddthat.com
                    14·
                    4 days ago

                    if youre a virgin who can’t get laid youre not an INvoluntary CELibate

                    That’s the very definition of it, not my fault normies raped this term