You make it sound easy, it’s often something you are not able to understand easly you cannot just “work on that before devoting yourself” if you do not know about you being that in principle.
Also, talking about is often harder than it seems (especially because bisexuals are also very judged in the LGBT community itself), i have some bisexual friends and, oh man how many times i heard them not being sure anymore if they were actually bisexual or not, some even thought they were pretending (they were not)
It’s not about being bisexual it’s about being afraid of being vulnerable with the person you’re trying to spend the rest of your life with. If you can’t be fully open and honest with them out of fear you’re not ready to be married, a life long commitment, at least not to that person who scares you. They might reject you? Then they’re not a good match anyway, give them the opportunity to make an informed decision. Don’t have it figured out? Ok, considering it’s not about being bisexual that’s not an issue they should still know you’re at a stage in your life where you don’t have that figured out yet. I think denying a potential life partner any significant information about yourself is not ok, it shows a fear of intimacy and vulnerability and it robs them of the opportunity to make an informed decision, none of those things are good for a life long partner to be dealing with.
i have a theory that actually bisexuality is the default for mammals and heterosexual relationships a common general preference. I get its confusing for some but what depends is how they personaly perceive their own attractions.
If they weren’t sure and over many years they started to question their own sexuality its a different story but thats not this one.
What changed in a honeymoons worth of time to go from “not questioning their sexuality” to
“perceiving themselves as bisexual”
Let me put it this way, if my partner felt uncomfortable telling me something they struggle with. Than i would perceive that as a personal failure. Because trusting eachother to tackle life together is the whole point of the ceremony.
The fact itself shouldn’t.
Not being open about yourself till just after marriage is what’s bothering.
Granted marriage culture has changed alot but surely the idea is still to unite with someone for hopefully the rest of their life.
If one has reservations and arent comfortable to be open about things that is valid but then work on that before devoting yourself to another.
You make it sound easy, it’s often something you are not able to understand easly you cannot just “work on that before devoting yourself” if you do not know about you being that in principle. Also, talking about is often harder than it seems (especially because bisexuals are also very judged in the LGBT community itself), i have some bisexual friends and, oh man how many times i heard them not being sure anymore if they were actually bisexual or not, some even thought they were pretending (they were not)
It’s not about being bisexual it’s about being afraid of being vulnerable with the person you’re trying to spend the rest of your life with. If you can’t be fully open and honest with them out of fear you’re not ready to be married, a life long commitment, at least not to that person who scares you. They might reject you? Then they’re not a good match anyway, give them the opportunity to make an informed decision. Don’t have it figured out? Ok, considering it’s not about being bisexual that’s not an issue they should still know you’re at a stage in your life where you don’t have that figured out yet. I think denying a potential life partner any significant information about yourself is not ok, it shows a fear of intimacy and vulnerability and it robs them of the opportunity to make an informed decision, none of those things are good for a life long partner to be dealing with.
Of course, it’s not easy, but so is marriage.
i have a theory that actually bisexuality is the default for mammals and heterosexual relationships a common general preference. I get its confusing for some but what depends is how they personaly perceive their own attractions.
If they weren’t sure and over many years they started to question their own sexuality its a different story but thats not this one.
What changed in a honeymoons worth of time to go from “not questioning their sexuality” to “perceiving themselves as bisexual”
Let me put it this way, if my partner felt uncomfortable telling me something they struggle with. Than i would perceive that as a personal failure. Because trusting eachother to tackle life together is the whole point of the ceremony.