I say that regardless of if you believe something you are doing is right or wrong that withholding it from someone while knowing it could end your relationship is in any sain situation a selfish act.
Also I would say that people make mistakes and it if that is something you regret then it’s okay to forgive yourself and move on
My read on the situation based on what you typed is that you don’t see any harm in withholding something that you apparently believed would matter to the other person. I’m not caught up on if being bi or trans or whatever is actually wrong somehow in itself if that is how I’m coming across
Once you ring a bell, it cannot be un-rung. She may have taken it fine…or she may have left me over it; who’s to say? Would you want to risk losing someone over that?
When I came out to the people around me (long after the divorce), it was terrifying. Who will react in what way? Which relationships or friendships will never be the same? Who will embrace me? Or worse: who will throw me away? What about my parents?
Coming out is what can feel selfish. I wasn’t a secret homosexual, longing for the comfort of a man. I was happy where I was, with who I was with, and what I had.
A detail about my life that didn’t make a difference in our partnership was not shared. If she had asked me, I would have told her the truth.
There are plenty of people out there that are accepting of having a bisexual man as a partner, and I’d dare say that there are substantially more that behind closed doors would consider it a no-go.
I say that regardless of if you believe something you are doing is right or wrong that withholding it from someone while knowing it could end your relationship is in any sain situation a selfish act.
Also I would say that people make mistakes and it if that is something you regret then it’s okay to forgive yourself and move on
My read on the situation based on what you typed is that you don’t see any harm in withholding something that you apparently believed would matter to the other person. I’m not caught up on if being bi or trans or whatever is actually wrong somehow in itself if that is how I’m coming across
Once you ring a bell, it cannot be un-rung. She may have taken it fine…or she may have left me over it; who’s to say? Would you want to risk losing someone over that?
When I came out to the people around me (long after the divorce), it was terrifying. Who will react in what way? Which relationships or friendships will never be the same? Who will embrace me? Or worse: who will throw me away? What about my parents?
Coming out is what can feel selfish. I wasn’t a secret homosexual, longing for the comfort of a man. I was happy where I was, with who I was with, and what I had.
A detail about my life that didn’t make a difference in our partnership was not shared. If she had asked me, I would have told her the truth.
There are plenty of people out there that are accepting of having a bisexual man as a partner, and I’d dare say that there are substantially more that behind closed doors would consider it a no-go.