And no, please dont suggest homeless shelters, those are just unsafe and very demoralizing.

The very first thing I looked for (and forgive me for this, this is gonna be a controvertial one here) is the military, because thats just what lots of reddit threads mentioned, and like it would be an immediate exit from a toxic household, and yes, that would mean enduring an institution thats also kinda toxic, but thats only a few years and you’re free, and its much more predictable. Except they dont accept anyone with depression and you have to prove you’re “fine” for probably 36 months to even get a waiver. So that’s crossed off as an option.

Jobcorps, well thats for low income families, and being a dependent means your parents income is what counts so i dont qualify

Americorps NCCC, well that seems seasonal and the next thing doesnt start till like months later (not sure if I’m even reading the website correctly)

Ngl I lowkey just thought of enlisting so once I finish that, next time we meet, I could stand in front of my toxic brother just staring at him menacingly, like whatcha gonna do, fight with an ex-soldier? Not to mention the prestiege of veteran status. And btw its only 1% thats acrually ever gonna face real combat so its not like WW1&2 trench warfare, its mostly just logistics, and like a civillian job, you’d be contributing to shareholder value anyways so there isnt really much of a “moral highground” either way, except working a retail job or some shit is very demoralizing but military has the reverance. And also

But anyways I’m not eligible anytime soon anyways. I doubt I’m even “manly” enough for it.

Bruh idk what to do really, you know that one movie, Parasite where like they work in a rich person’s mansion and that shit. I’m not a fan of rich people but like I lowkey wanna like just “housesitter” and chill in some nice mansion with great views, and maybe even find secrets and become a movie plot. (edit: okay this part I’m half joking, its more like a fantasy daydream of “I get to be in a movie plot” probably unrealistic for someone that never been in proximity of high wealth)

I’m in Philly, PA btw.

(Also should I pack light with just a backpack and just one or two change of clothes and laundry often or just carry every clothing I could fit in a suitcase?)

  • GloriousGasHole@piefed.socialEnglish
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    1 day ago

    It seems like you are just shooting down every idea that people try to provide. Based on your responses, I’m going to assume you’re in your late teens or early 20s

    I was in the military, and you absolutely should not enlist if you’re doing it for some sort of prestige or bragging rights. What the military is really great for is teaching young people a lot of skills, very quickly. But its not without its shortcomings. If you have depression, I would say look into something else because it is not an easy career field and it will likely take a major toll on your mental health, just like it does for everyone.

    What I would suggest is using your situation to learn. You said you’re not in any sort of immediate danger, so it just sounds like your personality doesn’t mesh well with the others in your household. Unfortunately, that is a part of life. You’ll always meet people that you don’t see eye to eye with. Learning how to deal with those people and interact with them is an important life skill. Tough it out for a while, get some sort of education in a trade that interests you, and then move out. I have a friend who is in his mid 30s that has had pretty bad social anxiety and general anxiety his whole life. He just started a trade school program, and he’ll be done within a year. If you’re serious about getting out, work a shitty part time job, live at home for a while, and work on a trade school program. The time spent at school and work means you won’t be at home much, and before you know it, you’ll be working a much more fulfilling job.

    Most states have some sort of workforce development program to help you find a career. Pennsylvania has a program called CareerLink. I would highly suggest starting there.

    https://www.pa.gov/agencies/dli/programs-services/workforce-development-home/pa-careerlink-

    If you have diagnosed depression/anxiety, you may even qualify for a special program to assist individuals with disabilities.

    https://www.pa.gov/agencies/dli/programs-services/disability-and-vocational-rehabilitation/individualized-employment-services0

    You aren’t going to completely change your entire life over night. Have a little patience, put in the work, and it will pay off before you know it. Good luck.