Protip for when you need help moving:
- Set and communicate a date well in advance, ideally as soon as you sign the new lease.
- Ask 3x as many people as you think you’ll need.
- Have everything packed when they arrive.
- Only fill boxes with heavy stuff half-way.
- And make absolutely sure there’s food and drink available at all times.
So many friends I’ve helped move who almost seems surprised when we arrive, as if they didn’t know themselves they were moving.
I think most important point is, have your shit packed and ready, nothing more annoying than carrying out a sofa and see them neatly pack LPs or some shit in the background. MF you had a month to do this, I’m not moving for you I’m helping you move.
Don’t invite this person. They’ll make errands that should be an hour into a 3 hour escapade while complaining every 25 minutes about being hungry and wanting snacks.
Eat a whole fucking meal, like an adult.
Did my elderly mother suddenly find her way onto the fediverse? She used to say shit like this when I was a toddler.
Going to assume you’re just trauma venting, because clearly toddlers should be eating all the time; they’re small and have small systems, whereas adults can almost always eat enough food to sustain them for 4-5 hours, with a basic understanding of nutrition.
Anyway, sorry your mom was the way she was.
Look at moneybags over here able to afford eating out in 2025
This person sounds incredibly selfish and entitled. I bet they’d expect you to be the one buying the snacks too.
It’s ok to have boundaries. That’s not selfish.
Ultimatems aren’t boundaries.
An ultimatum is you have to do x. A boundary is “I won’t do x”
I won’t go on a trip if there’s no snacks.
Some people will phase ultimatums as boundaries to manipulate, but this isn’t that.
