• inclementimmigrant@lemmy.world
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    23 hours ago

    Easier said than done for a lot of us. Being over 40 and with a family, even in tech, makes it hard as hell.

    But god speed to those who can make it out because America is just going to get worse even if Trump crashes and burns.

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      10 hours ago

      Programmer in 40’s. Applied for one job. Immigrated. A lot of people just assume it is too hard and use that to excuse not trying. Perhaps you are, but those who aren’t, go for it.

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      41, and only one sellable skill that only has a 50/50 chance of getting me into Canada. My issue is both my parents are elderly and need me around to take care of them, and will under no circumstances move anywhere. So I couldn’t in good conscience leave.

      I’m not married, I have no kids, my plan is just keep my head down, take care of my parents, and once they’re gone sit back and wait for death… which will probably be from a disease thanks to the gutting of the CDC and NIH.

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        I’m in a pretty similar position. 41, no kids, not married, around for elderly parents (missed work last week due to mom having a surgery), and the plans are pretty bleak for once they’re gone.

        I’m not really interested in leaving the country even though I have some in-demand skills. My plan at this point is to be as big of a pain in the ass as I can to fascists. I’ll escalate once there’s no longer the responsibility of being around for my folks.

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        I’m in the exact same boat as you. I don’t have any funds to leave, nor any specialized skill(s) a country might want, just military, and care taker work. I’m burnt out as fuck. But just like you, I can’t bare to leave my aging parents alone. I took care of my grandad for 3 years, alone during Covid while his dementia worsened. Worse thing I ever had to do in my life, but I don’t regret giving my grandad the best care I could give him. I wish you good luck tho and hope your parents appreciate what you are sacrificing.

        Don’t stop being nice to people, still try to be genuine and humble and look at things objectively and this sick world won’t get you down as much. I don’t see any future and it’s fucking depressing, but I’ll be damned if I let dipshits in Congress destroy all my happiness. I try my best to stay happy or content out of spite. Good luck my guy.

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          Yep it sucks and we’re stuck, but good on you for taking care of your grandad during all that. My aunt and uncle live in another part of the country and she had to care for him during his dementia decline, it was heartbreaking that there was nothing we could do to help. The only savings grace was that their oldest son is a state trooper and since he had to be out anyway he would stop by at the end of his shift and help out for a few hours every day.

          Best of luck to you as well, and as you said stay positive.

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          apparently it was hard to get into biotech, unless your a scientist, it will be hard to find a job overseas. people cant even get into the field at the undergrad level, knew people who had MS had the same problem. these industries take advantage of people so much. also the lack of developed fast railways makes difficult for people to find jobs, which are often hours away from twhere they live.