I came to tell my boss about my mental problems, that caused me to cancel my pto at the last minute only to re put it in next day. It has been in for a week and everything was ready to go.
First texted about it wanting to talk. Ignored. Bring up in morning meeting " no I don’t have time we will talk later"
I linger in the office to talk to his boss or him whoever showed first. He finally calls me back because he sees me waiting outside his bosses office.
I opened by saying “sorry about that communication my brain was broke, this time of year is really hard for…” Was interrupted. Told “you’re an adult, don’t say that. I don’t care about your reasons. I haven’t read any emails you sent.” Are you taking it or not?"
I’ve never had such a toxic statement come from the person who is supposed to look out for their employees wellbeing. They at least act like they have your best interest at heart.
Also getting confirmation you don’t ever read anything I send.
I’ve dealt with toxicity before. But to directly be told I don’t give a fuck about you is a bit much for me.
Machismo should be eradicated from the earth. Although I am sure they would say the same about sensitive ass men like me.
Tldr: What’s an event that made you realize it was time to move in to another job?
Your mental problems are yours, not your bosses. The simple question of “Are you taking the time off or not?” would maybe have been a more professional way of handling it however.
That said, what makes you chose to stay at a job or move on is entirely up to you. If you want an environment more attuned to a “sensitive ass man like me”, go find one.
As to what has made me walk out, a far from complete list includes:
Suffering multiple hospital requiring injuries and not being allowed to leave my station.
New management changing the scheduling policy so that I’d be required to work nights and weekend.
Not receiving a promised raise after a significant project.
Being assigned an impossible task to be used as the scape goat for a failing project.
Being assigned a management role after explicitly stating I could not manage a team in the field when I don’t speak the language.
Not wanting to transfer to the new location.
Realizing I was too old and broken to enjoy working in such a confined, loud, dirty, and crowded environment.
It was my birthday and I wanted to quit as a present to myself.