I came to tell my boss about my mental problems, that caused me to cancel my pto at the last minute only to re put it in next day. It has been in for a week and everything was ready to go.
First texted about it wanting to talk. Ignored. Bring up in morning meeting " no I don’t have time we will talk later"
I linger in the office to talk to his boss or him whoever showed first. He finally calls me back because he sees me waiting outside his bosses office.
I opened by saying “sorry about that communication my brain was broke, this time of year is really hard for…” Was interrupted. Told “you’re an adult, don’t say that. I don’t care about your reasons. I haven’t read any emails you sent.” Are you taking it or not?"
I’ve never had such a toxic statement come from the person who is supposed to look out for their employees wellbeing. They at least act like they have your best interest at heart.
Also getting confirmation you don’t ever read anything I send.
I’ve dealt with toxicity before. But to directly be told I don’t give a fuck about you is a bit much for me.
Machismo should be eradicated from the earth. Although I am sure they would say the same about sensitive ass men like me.
Tldr: What’s an event that made you realize it was time to move in to another job?


Please don’t tell your boss about your mental health problems. Nothing good will come of it.
I’m a boss and try to minimize my shittiness. I want my team members to take PTO for mental issues or whatever else they need but I do not want to know the details. That is for their own protection. If they need medical accomodations they should go through the formal channels, getting it properly documented so they have full legal protections. Anything other than that, sharing their personal medical information with me or anyone else at this Mega CorpTM is a bad idea for them. (US-based, think about your own country’s protections before considering this advice).
Your boss sounds like an incompetent asshole. Even with a empathetic human boss though, don’t tell them the details of your personal issues.