Join a club, go to meetups, anything where you interact with people non digitally, or you will become a very bitter, caustic person.
I’ve tried all that. I spent years exploring every option relentlessly. But people are judgemental, and consistently rejected me due to the aforementioned lack of social skills.
I’m already bitter, but not because I spend too much time on the internet. That’s confusing correlation with causation. I spend too much time on the internet, and I’m bitter, but both of those things are caused by the consistent social rejection and scorn that I’ve received throughout my life.
No, it means statistically you’ll need to try with more than 2 people to find a “good” person
Once people notice that I’ve tried pursuing romance with more than 2 people (even in the aftermath of rejection), they label me as a player and tell all their friends to avoid me. Getting rejected is seen as a red flag. People tend to be attracted to people that other people are attracted to. “Try, try again” doesn’t work in dating.
Nobody says you NEED to date, but you don’t radiate any kind of gracious “eh, dating is just not for me” attitude.
I’m sorry, I didn’t realize I need to radiate grace.
Yeah, I am bitter, but it’s not because I’m “unwilling to come out of the digital world more.” I stay in the digital world because I’ve tried socializing in person, and I’m sick and tired of being punished for being not normal.
So it’s roughly 3 options:
Put in the effort
REALLY make peace with not dating, not out of spite, but enjoying the choice
live a bitter life
I’ve put in the effort, but that doesn’t guarantee success.
I’ve made peace with not dating, but what’s it to you if I made my peace out of spite? I’ve learned to accept a shit sandwich because it’s my only choice, but don’t tell me I need to enjoy it.
Live a bitter life: ✓
Although my cat takes some of the bitterness out of it, and I try not to think too much about the rest these days.
I’ve tried all that. I spent years exploring every option relentlessly. But people are judgemental, and consistently rejected me due to the aforementioned lack of social skills.
I’m already bitter, but not because I spend too much time on the internet. That’s confusing correlation with causation. I spend too much time on the internet, and I’m bitter, but both of those things are caused by the consistent social rejection and scorn that I’ve received throughout my life.
Once people notice that I’ve tried pursuing romance with more than 2 people (even in the aftermath of rejection), they label me as a player and tell all their friends to avoid me. Getting rejected is seen as a red flag. People tend to be attracted to people that other people are attracted to. “Try, try again” doesn’t work in dating.
I’m sorry, I didn’t realize I need to radiate grace.
Yeah, I am bitter, but it’s not because I’m “unwilling to come out of the digital world more.” I stay in the digital world because I’ve tried socializing in person, and I’m sick and tired of being punished for being not normal.
Although my cat takes some of the bitterness out of it, and I try not to think too much about the rest these days.