My mom once got so upset at me and my brothers not cleaning our rooms, that she spent the school day taking all of our toys, putting them in trash bags, and leaving them in the back yard.
Parents - don’t do that. It’s traumatizing. I still have massive issues with people touching my things, and I’m in my 30s.
It also did nothing to help me clean my room, as you can’t punish someone out of having ADHD. Specific guidance could’ve helped me, as I was never taught how to organize things. Instead, I was expected to just figure it out somehow and got in trouble for failing to do so.
Fuck Reddit and Fuck Spez.
Lol I literally did this once, except I was supposed to clean the yard. Being the seasoned boy scout I was, I built a shelter out of the stuff I was supposed to put away. Transformed that yard from a dump to a slum.
I wish I was that brave and stubborn as a child. Threatening to kick me outside or take me to the bad parts of town was one of my parents favorite fear tactics. And it worked.
I wasn’t exactly brave or stubborn, I was vindictive. Once my mother got mad at me and took away my computer. I in turn took the main power breaker from the house.
Another time she got mad at me and took my car keys… I set an alarm for 3am, went outside and took her car battery. Now I know what you’re thinking “she has your keys, she’ll just use your car”, I also took my car battery. Both were carried about 1/4 mile into the woods that surrounded our home. Next day she tried to leave for work about the same time I had to start walking to the bus stop for school. Yeah… She was not happy but I got my car keys back!
If I were her, I would’ve sent your ass to one of those fucked up boys boot camps/living facilities in Wyoming/utah.
Were you abused or just a spoiled shit?
Mostly just spoiled and egotistical…
Yeah where I grew up if a kid did that, they’d be kicked out. If old enough to have a car, old enough to live on their own.
Yeah my country has these pre army training camps, basically schools but they drill discipline into your head, they’re popular if you are expected to join army. But I’d send my kid just to get the spoiled shut out of him.
That’s why you should be honest with your children
“Boys will be boys” is such a harmful phrase
Can confirm: my youngest son would most definitely do this.
I’m a grown adult and currently buzzing with so much energy I might do this tonight to burn off some energy…
No one likes a bragger. 😤
My ADHD agrees that this is definitely the easier task.
Rather, the more interesting thing to do and therefore what my body will now do, without me having any control to stop it
Yeah I had more than one outside sleeping set up, but mine were to avoid abuse by not existing at home after my dad came home from work. Got me out of more than one beating I’m sure, and only slightly less comfortable than sleeping under my bed or in the closet.
im sorry that happened to you. how are you dealing with that now
I have a nice anti-anxiety med and spend time with male friends who are good dads to overwrite the bad lessons. Gives me hope that not all kids live in terror of their own fathers.
thats great to hear.
@SpaceFacts what is, “threatening with a good time”
KIDDOS used LOGIC! It’s super effective!
