It also sends a message that there’s no point in bringing up things that bother you. A kid raised on “just ignore them” may internalize that they shouldn’t talk about their problems, since nobody’s going to help them anyway. Then someday they may end up in a work force where they don’t bring up issues to management that could totally be resolved with a simple conversation. Worse yet, if they have a beef with someone and the other person speaks to management first, they’ll immediately be put on the defense simply because they didn’t say anything sooner.
One of the worst, isn’t it? Blaming the victim in advance.
He’s just looking for attention. Paying attention to him makes him do more of the thing he’s already doing, so if he’s doing a thing and you’re paying attention, it’s actually your fault now because circular reasoning works because circular reasoning works.
Just ignore them.
Try telling that to someone who is being physically afflicted.
It also sends a message that there’s no point in bringing up things that bother you. A kid raised on “just ignore them” may internalize that they shouldn’t talk about their problems, since nobody’s going to help them anyway. Then someday they may end up in a work force where they don’t bring up issues to management that could totally be resolved with a simple conversation. Worse yet, if they have a beef with someone and the other person speaks to management first, they’ll immediately be put on the defense simply because they didn’t say anything sooner.
One of the worst, isn’t it? Blaming the victim in advance.