A lack of filter means saying whatever is on your mind without considering politeness, appropriateness, relevance, or respect for the situation. People who have no filter may use profanity when they should not or bring up sensitive topics such as religion, politics, sex, body parts, or body odors in ways that offend others. Human communication follows social norms, and these norms discourage creating unnecessary controversy, embarrassing people, or discussing highly divisive topics in casual conversation. When someone ignores these norms, they may be seen as awkward, weird, or socially unaware, and others may feel unsafe or uncomfortable interacting with them. Appropriateness is a skill that can be learned by thinking before speaking, considering the audience and situation, and asking whether something is respectful, relevant, and suitable to say.
I think the point of communication is to communicate. People who “have no filter” aren’t communicating because they don’t care how their words are received. (ETA, neither are those who send emails to cover their ass, just to prove they ‘communicated’) Knowing your audience is half the battle, right? I am harshly straightforward with other people who are, because if they can dish it they better be prepared to take it. But mostly I try to speak in a way that can be received by the person I’m talking to.
I’m ok with the no filter people unless it’s someone using it as an excuse to be mean, that does happen. “I’m just brutally honest!” No. You are not.