I’ll give you some more context. I only came to this decision after driving with him for 10 hours up to Portland, where he worked for 6 months, and then driving him back down for another 10 hours. All the hours of which we talked quite deliberately about our differences of opinion. This wasn’t a spur of the moment thing.
My son is a lot like me, and all my other children. We are opinionated but rational. Indeed, I am planning to reconnect, and I hope he feels the same way. But that’s not up to me. It depends on how it goes.
In the end, he is my son, I have made choices, and I indeed regret quite a few of the ones I’ve made. I hope to rectify this one, this one that has severed my connection with my child. I talk with my other three children regularly.
You might think about how much you are thinking about other people’s comments on the internet though.
Why should he worry about how much he’s thinking about your comment? Isn’t provoking reactions part of posting something like that publicly or was it mainly meant as venting?
I actually agree with his sentiment but wouldn’t really be able to explain what exactly irks me. I think there can be value in reflecting on how relationship dynamics or social environments contribute to people drifting toward more extreme views. That doesn’t mean it’s your fault or that you’re responsible for his choices. But your first comment came across as if you saw yourself as having little or no role in the dynamic at all and I don’t think that’s true.
I think it actually makes sense to think about some of the questions posted by @Ediacarium@feddit.org. You might be able to better understand why you reacted so strongly.
That’s a lot of questions.
I’ll give you some more context. I only came to this decision after driving with him for 10 hours up to Portland, where he worked for 6 months, and then driving him back down for another 10 hours. All the hours of which we talked quite deliberately about our differences of opinion. This wasn’t a spur of the moment thing.
My son is a lot like me, and all my other children. We are opinionated but rational. Indeed, I am planning to reconnect, and I hope he feels the same way. But that’s not up to me. It depends on how it goes.
In the end, he is my son, I have made choices, and I indeed regret quite a few of the ones I’ve made. I hope to rectify this one, this one that has severed my connection with my child. I talk with my other three children regularly.
You might think about how much you are thinking about other people’s comments on the internet though.
Why should he worry about how much he’s thinking about your comment? Isn’t provoking reactions part of posting something like that publicly or was it mainly meant as venting?
I actually agree with his sentiment but wouldn’t really be able to explain what exactly irks me. I think there can be value in reflecting on how relationship dynamics or social environments contribute to people drifting toward more extreme views. That doesn’t mean it’s your fault or that you’re responsible for his choices. But your first comment came across as if you saw yourself as having little or no role in the dynamic at all and I don’t think that’s true.
I think it actually makes sense to think about some of the questions posted by @Ediacarium@feddit.org. You might be able to better understand why you reacted so strongly.