• sidelove@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I’m going to copy my original comment:

    Not for nothing, but the tendency for people who get along purely by being conventionally attractive to starfish isn’t like, a secret. Lack of effort isn’t really a gendered thing.

    Where I very specifically narrow it down to vapid people who are in it for self-pleasure as opposed to mutual enjoyment.

    The acrobatic inception of the idea that we’re talking about people reliving trauma instead of just being emotionally checked out like the entire previous thread implied is what I take issue with, it’s some legitimately heinous fake ally shit to use that as a non-sequiter argument.

    And yes, implying that I or the guy before me continued on through a partner reliving trauma IS nonconsent which IS rape. You can’t imply one without implying the other.

    • velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 days ago

      lol I did not accuse you of rape. That’s insane levels of cope for being called out on defending a sexist comment.