Was talking about home economics as a school subject in another thread and i realised that for me personally, taking “Food Tech” (cookery gcse) would have impacted me pretty negatively, even though generally speaking GCSEs don’t have much of an effect on the rest of your life or education.
So i wonder if anyone else has similar revelations? My post title is also phrased more openly than that, so it doesn’t have to be school specific, but i am mainly interested in things from the teenage time period.
Another choice i made in HS, for instance: i remember being really glad to have a medium-size group of friends in high school, but in retrospect they were terrible people and i realise that there would have been huge benefits to spending more time alone and in the library - yes, i genuinely look back and wish i studied more, lol. Something which I'm always told never happens.
This one “affects me as an adult” because i ended up entering adulthood with several friends determined to force their personality to be cool, relying on manosphere influencers to determine how they should behave; a lot of these people i didn’t want to know in the first place.
I spent the entirety of my high school years dating one girl, at the time I was in the thick of things and didn’t realize it, but it wasn’t until we broke up that I realized how disfunctional we/she were and made me realize that my life with her was the exact opposite of everything I wanted out of life.
I spent five years with her and was on a fast track to a very different life, and I hopped off that train at the very last moment.
I refuse to argue with my wife, I try to be compassionate to those around me, strive for financial stability, and take care of my body and mind. All things I didn’t have with my first real girlfriend from high school.
Furthermore her constant pregnancy scares (yes I wore protection, every time.) taught me that I have zero urge to be a parent. Every time she told me she might be expecting, but subsequently refused to take a pregnancy test, my entire existence was filled with dread. I couldn’t contemplate a single possibility where having a child resulted in anything good.
That might be my biggest visible ‘scar’ from those days the circumstances of my life and finances are drastically different, but that revelation remains consistent.
My brother dated a gal that did that pregnancy scare crap. He was with her for three years. Even if you wanted a kid one day, at that time even, nobody wants a kid or pregnancy like that. Glad you got out of that situation. I only have experience with the person that did it to my brother but she was very controlling, abusive, and unhinged if she happened to not be the center of attention in whatever room she happened to grace with her presence.
So your lady is also child-free? That’s awesome and rare.
I’m curious to get more details about this.