Nothing wrong with talking about expectations prior to banging.

In theory - yes. But in practice it would be rude and / or ruining the moment.

Much more rude to tell a woman you don’t want to fuck her after she’s taken her clothes off.

Since reading comprehension has escaped you here - I said it’s more rude to share you won’t fuck hairy women after clothes are off. It is a better idea to be upfront about how you can’t get your dick hard unless a woman is hairless rather than share that after clothes have already come off.

I said absolutely fucking NOTHING about rape or forcing people to have sex they don’t want.