Are friends just supposed to be like a TV? You talk to them when it’s convenient for you and you can’t think of something else to do?
I’ve just realized all the people I thought were my friends only talk to me on their schedule, when they feel like it. I’m left on read for days, meetings are ignored, text message conversations just end abruptly until they get back from vacation…
Is this it? Is this what friendship is? Because I don’t want it. I don’t want to feel like I have people to rely on only to find out that I’m just a convenience for people.
I’d say helpfulness, responsiveness and being friends are three different things, that can be overlapping or not.
I know some people who always respond and keep the conversation alive even though we’re not friends, and i can be ghosted for days by close friends, who i lived intense things with.
I know some people who helped me moving out even though we were just accointances, and i have friends who are lazy enough to avoid this, but i live spending time with them anyway.
These are very fluid for me, so i’d say to avoid worrying, it’s best to not expect a lot from people, and/or to try to find friends that seem to match your needs
I think this is true, it’s not a continunum but a mixed bag. Like the friend that left on my read would probably make an effort to help me move; guess what I really value is responsiveness.