Are friends just supposed to be like a TV? You talk to them when it’s convenient for you and you can’t think of something else to do?
I’ve just realized all the people I thought were my friends only talk to me on their schedule, when they feel like it. I’m left on read for days, meetings are ignored, text message conversations just end abruptly until they get back from vacation…
Is this it? Is this what friendship is? Because I don’t want it. I don’t want to feel like I have people to rely on only to find out that I’m just a convenience for people.
You are right that in modern society it’s much harder to make and maintain friends. Really you have to think of it in terms of “closeness” or intimacy. Have you talked about only good things with these people? Or have you opened up about maybe some deeper or darker topics? Have you been to each other’s house? Have you helped each other do something important and difficult? Being a friend is almost like an imposition. You need to be able to rely on and support each other.