• justaman123@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Maybe I’m too autistic but I just never could understand pinterest. I think it has something to do with like the same thing that femmes(edit: I meant this comment to include trans women but apparently it’s not coming off this way. But I don’t really know what word to use because honestly not all women have this tendency which Im talking about) do where they devote do much time and energy into their appearance and judging others appearances. It don’t make no sense to me, kind of like the difference between doing something nice for someone so that you can get something and doing something nice for no reward. What good is either?

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      2 days ago

      Go back to 4chan.

      Calling women femmes is about the most cringe inducing way to admit you’re a misogynist there is.

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        57 minutes ago

        No need to lynch them :/ – the queer community, being more empathic in general, use ‘femme’ to refer to anyone with stereotypically feminine traits, and this detaches the social stigma that all women must do x and all men mustn’t do x. But with your comment you just implied that all femmes are women, which isn’t true – SJW out of the way the real problem is what the commenter was referring to: the overwhelming and ridiculous pressure on the vast majority of females, whether they end up becoming women or not, from a very young age to conform to a certain image for others to enjoy. The porcelain look of Geishas is one such example, as are the facial prosthetics a lot of women in Korea and China utilise.

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          47 minutes ago

          I’d argue you were correct - it seems more accurate to me to say that ‘femmes are pressured to worry about their image’ than ‘women…’ as many women unlearn the lesson that they must portray a certain version of themselves, whereas femmes generally conform to it willingly, hence why they’re ‘femme’. Therefore, the women that are excluded by the term ‘femme’ are the same women that don’t fit the criteria of using Pinterest for their self image…
          But this nuance with woman/female/femme is one of the more complex aspects of modern conversation. Last decade it was there/their/they’re. FTR: Am transwoman, am femme, felt included :)