Being accused of racism is uncomfortable, especially for white people who haven’t examined how their identity influences interactions and relationships. When being called “racist“, it is natural to feel a range of emotions, from defensiveness to guilt, shame, or even confusion at a given response from another person or group.
If you’re accused of being racist, consider resisting the urge to dismiss or minimize the other person’s feelings and lived experiences of racial trauma in a radicalized society.
https://mytherapynyc.com/being-called-out-for-racism/