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Cake day: October 25th, 2023

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  • how can you be confident that anything supplied here will be retained if you were previously unaware you even needed to know in the first place?

    The information I’m looking for wasn’t immediately important for me to know earlier in life, and because of a mix of the ADHD issues, a lack of home economics-type education and a lot of these kinds of responsibilities being handled by someone else growing up, I wasn’t really in a place to think of educating myself for the future. This all changed a while ago and I realized I needed to do a lot of catching up to be a functional, self-autonomous person. I’ve gotten the impression that there are a ton of folks who feel this way about stuff like learning to do taxes.

    TL;DR, my brain holds it as useful, very important information now.






    • Six-year-olds have very little agency over their minds and so little understanding of the world that IMO it’s not really worth it to view them as “guilty” of things.
    • I don’t know whether this is a useful way of thinking about things for you, but most of the matter in your body has been replaced with new matter since you were six years old. I expect most of the way you think and the things you know have been replaced since then, and how your cognition works on a very basic level has changed. Like, if you’re over age 27 you have a developed prefrontal cortex that wasn’t all there before. You’ve changed enough that you could safely regard yourself as a different person in a material sense, and a much better person. Sometimes when I remember something terrible I’ve done ages ago, the way I’ll think of it is that I can destroy that other version of me by becoming a different, better person.
    • You could see life-changing benefits by seeking therapy resources like DBT and CBT. Web searching these can lead you to free video resources that you could listen to while doing whatever else you do with your day.