you’re completely right dude. and the downvotes of users who were disaffected by this post prove it.
i find that the reason this attitude is so prevalent on lemmy is because, well, lemmy is perceived as the niche place for cool kids whereas reddit is perceived as the forum for normies. a lot of users here get a superiority complex solely from not being reddit. add that to the fact that the majority of users here are highly technical and take pride in their expertise… you get the idea.
this attitude then belies every discussion that happens on this platform. comments that insist that you should “just” do something only exist to communicate the user’s belief that their way is better than any other way.
use that body wash, take road trips, and crank that thermostat if it makes you happy. nobody gets to govern you and you’re not obligated to listen to them.
Your thoughts are valid. But that’s the thing - they’re just thoughts. They won’t hurt you and nobody will judge you for having them.
Thoughts and emotions flow in and out of your awareness for a reason. If you want to come to a decision, you have to first understand where your thoughts and emotions are coming from. You should analyze them objectively as they come without indulging them further. Kind of like analyzing why movie characters do the things they do but for yourself.
Why do you feel like you don’t deserve a boyfriend? Why do you feel like you’re gross? What do you think is causing these feelings?