• Signtist@bookwyr.me
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      My wife and I have been together for 9 years, married for 3. I think our wedding was the 2nd or 3rd time our respective parents met each other, and they haven’t met since. Not a whole lot of time to build attraction. What events are you planning where 2 completely different families want to hang out with each other?

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        Thanksgiving at my house. My kids, my husband’s kids, my in-laws, my siblings, my ex and his family too (I was friends with his brother before I knew him and his mom is still my kids’ grandma) and when my mom was alive she came too.

        I honestly love parties like that. It’s utter chaos. But fun.

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          Huh, I never even considered just doing 1 thanksgiving and inviting everyone even if they don’t know each other. We’ve always just done 2 events for any major holiday, sometimes 3 or 4 if we wanted to do something with different friend groups.

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            Yeah we try to get everyone! Sometimes the parents of the boyfriends/girlfriends of our kids show up too, even the kids who moved away, or any ‘orphans’ from my work. Everyone brings something. My ex MIL brings thanksgiving (like literally I think she makes a turkey too and just doesn’t bring it) I can never figure out if she is trying to show me up or what but it means I can make vegan versions of sides for the vegans, so it works out.

            I cook for like 3 days to stage it but once done I let others set it out and clean up too. I just sit down, have a drink, and eat and hang out. Of course there’s always more cleanup at the end but worth it.

            Highly recommend consolidating it if you have the space. So much fun.

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              Sounds like a blast, but I think I’m too introverted for that, haha! Even just having my own small family over at one time has me socially exhausted.

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            It’s harder to do if you have a large extended family, especially if another family member usually hosts.

            My wife’s family was like that before her grandma and great uncle died.

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      Hrm. I’ve only met my FIL three times and have never met my MIL. They definitely aren’t going to meet my parents.

      Thinking about my grandparents though, I am not sure my mom’s folks and my dad’s folks ever met either.

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      That’s totally possible if they live pretty far or because of something else, my grandma never meet the parents of any of my aunts husbands lol