I’m a 54-year-old man, recently separated from my wife of 31 years - just earlier this month. Honestly, I’m already feeling bored and lonely, so I’ve been considering trying out dating apps (I’ve never used one before). However, my sons (30 and 28) tell me it’s a waste of time and possibly even a scam, and I’ve seen similar opinions online. So I’m not sure what to think.
My wife and I have always been independent in our marriage. Our separation was simply a long, honest conversation followed by her moving into her own place. We’ll probably divorce at some point, but it’s not a priority for either of us. Lifestyle-wise, nothing has really changed for me. I’m not lacking company - just sexual and romantic companionship specifically.
Just be aware that in many areas if you aren’t divorced then sleeping with someone else is called infidelity. Judges tend to get pissed about that during divorce proceedings.
Trying to think outside the box here, but maybe if she feels the same (and it sounds like you were both pretty mature about all this) you could join the local swinging scene together? Better and easier as a couple than as a single male.