any advice will help even generic stuff since other people also poballey have the same problem and would like some advice

do you ever feel like you have to choose between being ok or having friends and being private. like you know too much but you dont know what to do? have you been there? how do you start doing something and not stuck?

my friends dont use private things so i have to deal with it or be calld werid ( my freinds and adults think i just want privacy to play games when i shouldnt or watch videos that i should just bc im a yonger guy. if they dont acuse me of anything they just think im crazy or a bum who brings ppl down.

not to mention i feel stuck finding what to do and actalley doing ib. it feels easy and good to give up and ignore stuff like ts. lalala i cant hear you yk. its hrader to learn to bc im “spescial” and stuff. i worry that itll get very hard when i grow up too ((( have you been there?

  • monovergent@lemmy.ml
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    12 hours ago

    Look into threat modelling, we’re all striving for more privacy-friendly ways to keep in touch with people, and if you seal yourself off too early, you’ll suffocate.

    I know my friends and colleagues well in person, they know that I’m a privacy nut, and we agree to not report me missing just because I’m unreachable on a particular day. But knowing that they SMS each other their plans and that I’m probably not a target of the state, I’m cool texting them things like when we’re eating out together.

    Also don’t be disheartened, I keep at it even though my methods are nowhere near airtight. Even if every move of mine is known, the surveillance capitalists will at least know that I am flipping them off and trying my best to make their jobs hard.