I’m sorry to hear that this is happening to you, OP. You can be a nice person without people taking advantage of you.
The first thing is going to be to try to minimize the amount of toxic people in your life. If people are taking advantage of you, they aren’t your friend.
The next thing you want to do is be firm and set boundaries. It’s not easy, but there are ways that you can try to express your needs. The DBT therapy skill called DEARMAN is a useful tool. Here’s a quick overview.
None of this stuff is easy, but I believe in you. You can be nice and still have a nice life.
I’m sorry to hear that this is happening to you, OP. You can be a nice person without people taking advantage of you.
The first thing is going to be to try to minimize the amount of toxic people in your life. If people are taking advantage of you, they aren’t your friend.
The next thing you want to do is be firm and set boundaries. It’s not easy, but there are ways that you can try to express your needs. The DBT therapy skill called DEARMAN is a useful tool. Here’s a quick overview.
None of this stuff is easy, but I believe in you. You can be nice and still have a nice life.