I agree with everything except that women make better leaders, because i’d rather call it “different”. Leadership styles do differ, but which one is better depends on the situation. My wife was absolutely great at planning and improvising when something went wrong, while not having the calm needed for fine, detailed work - threading a needle was a pain for her, constructing something from Ikea made her really tilt; I OTOH absolutely suck at improvising (planning is fine, although realizing the plans is hard), while having no issue with very sensitive and rather annoying tasks, i simply kept my pace and cool throughout.
We really were a good match in general, and would still be together if it weren’t for my other issues which made us slowly drift apart and smothered what we had. We still care for each other a lot and visit one another every few weeks and message daily, but how it currently stands we are both better off alone.
Strangely I cope a lot better with the situation than her - i have a more active social life than i ever had before because i finally broke free of my permanent mental overload by living alone and being able to set my own rules, while her social circle currently crumbles without a clear reason why (although i think a lot of her acquaintances do resent her for dropping me, and gossip seems to spread like wildfire - she doesn’t deserve that at all, but even where i personally told people that I fully agree with the decision to separate, it doesn’t help at all)
I don’t even think that there exists such thing as “male” or “female” leadership. Leadership is just leadership, it’s genderless, just like a rock is just a rock.
Ultimately, things just do exist, they don’t have genders. If anything, they’re only by their materiality and their objective and/or intrinsical features, not by something so subjective and arbitrary as gender.
Some African and Native South-American “male” leadership styles are more similar to what in the Western culture would be considered a “female” leadership style.
I think the fact that you were able to identify your own struggles, while still maintaining a good relationship is huge. I think “different” is a better descriptor here over my saying it’s “better.” It’s always nuanced and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. When you find that those blocks all naturally interlock together and you support one another to fill those gaps, that demonstrates a really healthy connection.
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I agree with everything except that women make better leaders, because i’d rather call it “different”. Leadership styles do differ, but which one is better depends on the situation. My wife was absolutely great at planning and improvising when something went wrong, while not having the calm needed for fine, detailed work - threading a needle was a pain for her, constructing something from Ikea made her really tilt; I OTOH absolutely suck at improvising (planning is fine, although realizing the plans is hard), while having no issue with very sensitive and rather annoying tasks, i simply kept my pace and cool throughout.
We really were a good match in general, and would still be together if it weren’t for my other issues which made us slowly drift apart and smothered what we had. We still care for each other a lot and visit one another every few weeks and message daily, but how it currently stands we are both better off alone.
Strangely I cope a lot better with the situation than her - i have a more active social life than i ever had before because i finally broke free of my permanent mental overload by living alone and being able to set my own rules, while her social circle currently crumbles without a clear reason why (although i think a lot of her acquaintances do resent her for dropping me, and gossip seems to spread like wildfire - she doesn’t deserve that at all, but even where i personally told people that I fully agree with the decision to separate, it doesn’t help at all)
I don’t even think that there exists such thing as “male” or “female” leadership. Leadership is just leadership, it’s genderless, just like a rock is just a rock.
Ultimately, things just do exist, they don’t have genders. If anything, they’re only by their materiality and their objective and/or intrinsical features, not by something so subjective and arbitrary as gender.
Some African and Native South-American “male” leadership styles are more similar to what in the Western culture would be considered a “female” leadership style.
I think the fact that you were able to identify your own struggles, while still maintaining a good relationship is huge. I think “different” is a better descriptor here over my saying it’s “better.” It’s always nuanced and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. When you find that those blocks all naturally interlock together and you support one another to fill those gaps, that demonstrates a really healthy connection.