• OBJECTION!@lemmy.ml
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    24 hours ago

    Seeing this, I apologize for losing my cool and getting frustrated with her. I’ve deleted some of my comments. Sometimes I need to do a better job remembering the human, and with disengaging when things are unproductive.

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      23 hours ago

      That was you in there? How should I proceed? I am clearly being a jackass but given some things she’s admitted to me I don’t know if she’d accept deescalation. Also I am pretty toxically enjoying the attention

      My bad. I confused this interaction with something else. She’s not upset because of you.

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        23 hours ago

        Whether she accepts it or not, I’m done with the conversation. I maintain my position, but I see no point in continuing. If she hates me, she hates me, and she wouldn’t be the first, either way the conversation is over.

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          23 hours ago

          For the record, I have you tagged as one of the more serious people from your instance. I don’t really think there’s a way to be more tactful in some conversations.

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            23 hours ago

            I don’t really think there’s a way to be more tactful in some conversations.

            Perhaps you’re right to an extent, but I at least shouldn’t have called her an idiot. She is correct that it is ablest language, and I know better.

            In any case, when I thought of it in terms of a high person saying something I consider ignorant, irl, of course I wouldn’t go off on them. And when I look at it that way, regardless of whether the person on the other end is high, sober, whatever, sometimes, I could afford to be more patient.

            Depending on the person, of course.

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              19 hours ago

              The person you’re talking with hates women. Control+F his post history with literally any misogynistic term you can imagine. I’m not sure you’re going to have much luck talking about ableism with them, but you never know.