but I never would have said “hey hold on, I need to use an extra product before I eat my turkey sandwich”.

It’s amazing how many things we completely fail to question. Your parents said or didn’t say something, showed the action or inaction was completely normal, and then you autopiloted indefinitely until something is specifically called it out. I continue to find new things wrong with my dad’s statements. It’s… Infuriating when I figure it out. Usually happens when I go to say it out loud as fact to someone else. That triggers the internal fact check mechanism.

This has been going on for decades.