• partofthevoice@lemmy.zip
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    3 days ago

    In my wife’s case, it’s mental and not physical. She doesn’t like being choked. She likes the feeling of my hand around her neck. It’s like a domination kind of thing, or something. In similar vein, she likes being called a good girl.

    There is no oxygen deprivation going on.

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      3 days ago

      yeah, a distinction has to be made between real choking (which can’t really be done safely, even a little bit) and mimicking choking with minimal pressure placed somewhere it won’t actually affect blood/air flow. I am willing to do the latter but would never ever consider the former.

      Knowing some anatomy helps, as it’s a lot safer to put pressure on muscles like the upper trapezius that are fully behind the trachea or major arteries/veins. Combine that with light pressure in the front on the collarbone and you have a relatively safe approximation of choking.