No choking of any kind is safe. It’s all edge play.
There’s a huge difference between a firm hold and chokehold. Giving someone a firm grasp is a safer way of doing that if you’re gonna do that at all. It’s not as dark romance book boyfriend hot, but it has the added benefit of not leading to accidents.
There’s a huge difference between a firm hold and chokehold.
So much this! I think it’s under-communicated that you have this whole spectrum from “placing hand lightly on neck” to “actual strangulation”, and there’s a whole lot of fun to be had without getting close to the dangerous side of that spectrum at all.
It is fair, I think, to set your own boundaries with how close to choking you are willing to get - consent requires BOTH to enthusiastically consent, not just the sub.
I think a safer scenario involves some playing along from the sub. A firm non-choking grip just below the throat to signal to them to hold their breath - that way they can actually breathe the entire time and reflexes can kick in if they need to, but you are strongly encouraging them to play along with the pre-established signal instead of actually restricting airflow. To someone deep enough in subspace that can feel just as intense as an actual choke without the risk.
No choking of any kind is safe. It’s all edge play.
There’s a huge difference between a firm hold and chokehold. Giving someone a firm grasp is a safer way of doing that if you’re gonna do that at all. It’s not as dark romance book boyfriend hot, but it has the added benefit of not leading to accidents.
So much this! I think it’s under-communicated that you have this whole spectrum from “placing hand lightly on neck” to “actual strangulation”, and there’s a whole lot of fun to be had without getting close to the dangerous side of that spectrum at all.
Yeah, the cuties ask me for the lack of oxygen high. I’ll keep ya words in mind
It is fair, I think, to set your own boundaries with how close to choking you are willing to get - consent requires BOTH to enthusiastically consent, not just the sub.
I think a safer scenario involves some playing along from the sub. A firm non-choking grip just below the throat to signal to them to hold their breath - that way they can actually breathe the entire time and reflexes can kick in if they need to, but you are strongly encouraging them to play along with the pre-established signal instead of actually restricting airflow. To someone deep enough in subspace that can feel just as intense as an actual choke without the risk.
The problem is that the average sub has a deathwish and they cum harder in proportion to how close they get to it.
And then you have to be the party pooper and go “no sweetie I will not be tying a noose around your neck”
One can only go so far tbh.