If your daughter meets someone who makes her happy, shouldn’t you just be happy for her? You sound exactly like a conservative saying “Imagine if your daughter came home with a woman!” Maybe it’s not about you.
I think I’ve just figured out why all these gross comments are getting upvoted so hard ?
Is anyone else concerned someone is posting these posts and commenting these comments and upvoting said comments to give the appearance that Lemmy or this instance alone is dominated by perverts to then start spreading that lie all over the internet or… am I being paranoid?
Cause I mean… seriously. It’s like Andrew Tate HQ in this comments section. And the arguments are so weak that I don’t even feel vaguely enraged by them. It’s like they’re… not even real people. Like… I’ve never met anyone like this IRL.
Is there somekinda minor drama going on between instances? Is someone doing this in a coordinated way? Cause all the comments are also very similar to each other.
In my experience lemmy has always been pretty misogynistic. I think it’s just a byproduct of having a heavy tech community bias. Anytime anything about women’s rights gets spoken about they come out of the woodworks.
So, anyone who doesn’t hold the same opinion as you is a pervert and fan of sex trafficking. I see.
You’ll be shocked to learn that some 19-year old women can actually think for themselves. Gasp! And then 13 years later when they’re married to that person with children, would you tell a 32-year old woman with children that she was groomed? You don’t think she could have realized that at some point in the last decade-plus? Maybe she understood exactly what she was doing at the time and still does today.
Andrew Tate is a sex trafficker. Billy Corgan is a libertarian asshole. I personally have no desire to date someone that much younger than myself, though I have dated someone that much older than me and never felt “taken advantage” of.
But two consenting adults should be allowed to have a romantic relationship. I mean, where do you draw the line, exactly? Is 35 and 25 perverted? 35 and 24? How far do we go? Does it matter that the older person is a man? If it’s always the case that a 19-year old dating a 44-year old is a manipulative relationship, then it should be codified and made illegal, right? And if that’s not the case, then who the fuck are you to judge these people?
There’s no conspiracy here. You just can’t stand that someone would dare to question your claptrap and deprive you of precious Internet points.
would you tell a 32-year old woman with children that she was groomed?
Yes.
Dude… wow… I am shocked
I literally don’t have to say anything. You’re making yourself look absolutely horrible. What I am reading here is the kind of comment that tanks a politician’s campaign. Didn’t think I’d see it on Lemmy. Purely vile.
Nobody agrees with you. Nobody tolerates you. You are universally hated and you deserve it. Nobody has to explain themselves to you, the same way we don’t have to explain why fascism is bad to a nazi. It simply is. You’re simply wrong. Everyone inherently agrees that you are wrong, because there’s nothing wrong with us pathologically, unlike you.
Go to therapy.
Actually, go fuck yourself, and then go to therapy.
EDIT: Cheers for the upvotes to everyone who read this far. Glad to know most of us are sane. I’m logging out for the night.
Damn, poor Billy aged 6 years just so you could double-down on your ridiculous point.
But why stop at romantic relationships? Every relationship has the potential for manipulation. It’s only fair that 19-year olds only interact with other 19-year olds with similar socioeconomic backgrounds. Otherwise, they could be manipulated to do all manner of things!
Billy aged 6 years just so you could double-down on your ridiculous point.
I guess I should be accurate with numbers… Lord wouldn’t it sound bad if 44 year old was dating a 13 year old.
But why stop at romantic relationships? Every relationship has the potential for manipulation.
And you are saying all relationships have the same impact on your life as a marriage or long term relationship? Or are you just asking incredibly dumb questions?
Speaking from personal experience, many of my non-romantic friendships have had as great or greater impact on my life than did my long-term romantic relationships. I don’t think that’s so uncommon.
But the impact isn’t really the point. The point comes back to agency. Does a 19-year old have agency? You’re effectively saying that they do not, because they’re easily manipulated by experience and material resources. I’m saying that, while that’s possible, it’s also possible that a 19-year old sees someone who is more experienced and has material resources and decides that’s a good enough reason to be in a romantic relationship. I mean, do you think sometime in the last 13 years that Chloe Mendel could have developed sufficient experience and material resources of her own such that she could have decided to leave? Or do you think that even as a 30-something woman she’s still being manipulated?
I don’t know if 18 is the right age to determine that someone is an adult, but I do think that once we draw that line, we can’t selectively decide what’s good and bad for them. I don’t think you can say an 18-year old shouldn’t be allowed to decide who they want to fuck while also saying they can vote and decide which politician gets to fuck us. Like, if you think a 19-year old is so easily manipulated, then they certainly shouldn’t be allowed to vote because they could be manipulated by some 44-year old into voting against their best interest, right? This is the slippery slope to which I was referring.
I understand the POV that people feel like a 19-year old is being taken advantage of. If a 43-year old started dating my 18-year old niece, I would be pretty disappointed. But if they were genuinely happy together, who am I to stand in their way? This is also the analogy to queer relationships: just because it elicits a disgust reaction in someone doesn’t mean it’s morally wrong. I understand your point is different here in that the power imbalance is the potential problem, and it’s an argument that has merit. But it’s also well within the spectrum of possibility that Mendel and Corgan are genuinely happy together, and who are you to tell them that they can’t be?
Speaking from personal experience, many of my non-romantic friendships have had as great or greater impact on my life than did my long-term romantic relationships. I don’t think that’s so uncommon.
You’re talking about emotional impact alone. Someone who lives with you, shares a bank account with you, and owns property with you obviously has more ability to control you and abuse you.
The point comes back to agency. Does a 19-year old have agency? You’re effectively saying that they do not, because they’re easily manipulated by experience and material resources.
Are you trying to claim someone cannot dilute someone else’s agency? that’s the whole problem with a power imbalance in a relationship, that your partner can use their power to isolate you from your agency.
19-year old sees someone who is more experienced and has material resources and decides that’s a good enough reason to be in a romantic relationship.
Again my criticism isn’t about the decisions made by the person who just legally became an adult, it’s on the older person.
I mean, do you think sometime in the last 13 years that Chloe Mendel could have developed sufficient experience and material resources of her own such that she could have decided to leave?
Do you think that people always leave bad relationships when thing become unhealthy?
don’t know if 18 is the right age to determine that someone is an adult, but I do think that once we draw that line, we can’t selectively decide what’s good and bad for them.
When did I say I wanted to do that?
I don’t think you can say an 18-year old shouldn’t be allowed to decide who they want to fuck while also saying they can vote and decide which politician gets to fuck us.
Again… When did I say that? What I said is this guy is gross, immature, and wants to take advantage of young women.
Like, if you think a 19-year old is so easily manipulated, then they certainly shouldn’t be allowed to vote because they could be manipulated by some 44-year old into voting against their best interest, right? This is the slippery slope to which I was referring.
19 years old should vote because the laws are pertinent to their present and future…
I understand the POV that people feel like a 19-year old is being taken advantage of. If a 43-year old started dating my 18-year old niece, I would be pretty disappointed. But if they were genuinely happy together, who am I to stand in their way?
That is a big “if” you are relying on. What if that 43 year old was love bombing them and telling you on the side that they were going to eventually leave them a broken mess? How often do you think these relationships are genuine compared to predatory. How do you tell the difference in the beginning?
This is also the analogy to queer relationships: just because it elicits a disgust reaction in someone doesn’t mean it’s morally wrong.
You can literally validate any abusive relationship with that same thinking because it’s made to exclude context.
“Just because slavery elicits a disgust reaction in someone doesn’t mean it’s morally wrong.”
Mendel and Corgan are genuinely happy together, and who are you to tell them that they can’t be?
When did I say they can’t be happy. What I said is that he is a disgusting and predatory man.
If your daughter meets someone who makes her happy, shouldn’t you just be happy for her? You sound exactly like a conservative saying “Imagine if your daughter came home with a woman!” Maybe it’s not about you.
This account is 15 days old
I think I’ve just figured out why all these gross comments are getting upvoted so hard ?
Is anyone else concerned someone is posting these posts and commenting these comments and upvoting said comments to give the appearance that Lemmy or this instance alone is dominated by perverts to then start spreading that lie all over the internet or… am I being paranoid?
Cause I mean… seriously. It’s like Andrew Tate HQ in this comments section. And the arguments are so weak that I don’t even feel vaguely enraged by them. It’s like they’re… not even real people. Like… I’ve never met anyone like this IRL.
Is there somekinda minor drama going on between instances? Is someone doing this in a coordinated way? Cause all the comments are also very similar to each other.
Oh, well… anyway… 🤨
In my experience lemmy has always been pretty misogynistic. I think it’s just a byproduct of having a heavy tech community bias. Anytime anything about women’s rights gets spoken about they come out of the woodworks.
So, anyone who doesn’t hold the same opinion as you is a pervert and fan of sex trafficking. I see.
You’ll be shocked to learn that some 19-year old women can actually think for themselves. Gasp! And then 13 years later when they’re married to that person with children, would you tell a 32-year old woman with children that she was groomed? You don’t think she could have realized that at some point in the last decade-plus? Maybe she understood exactly what she was doing at the time and still does today.
Andrew Tate is a sex trafficker. Billy Corgan is a libertarian asshole. I personally have no desire to date someone that much younger than myself, though I have dated someone that much older than me and never felt “taken advantage” of.
But two consenting adults should be allowed to have a romantic relationship. I mean, where do you draw the line, exactly? Is 35 and 25 perverted? 35 and 24? How far do we go? Does it matter that the older person is a man? If it’s always the case that a 19-year old dating a 44-year old is a manipulative relationship, then it should be codified and made illegal, right? And if that’s not the case, then who the fuck are you to judge these people?
There’s no conspiracy here. You just can’t stand that someone would dare to question your claptrap and deprive you of precious Internet points.
Yes.
Dude… wow… I am shocked
I literally don’t have to say anything. You’re making yourself look absolutely horrible. What I am reading here is the kind of comment that tanks a politician’s campaign. Didn’t think I’d see it on Lemmy. Purely vile.
So how old does a woman need to be in order to make decisions for herself? 25? 30? If your moral convictions here are so strong, then elucidate them.
You really don’t quit, do you?
You have zero shame
So desperate to normalize your views
Nobody agrees with you. Nobody tolerates you. You are universally hated and you deserve it. Nobody has to explain themselves to you, the same way we don’t have to explain why fascism is bad to a nazi. It simply is. You’re simply wrong. Everyone inherently agrees that you are wrong, because there’s nothing wrong with us pathologically, unlike you.
Go to therapy.
Actually, go fuck yourself, and then go to therapy.
EDIT: Cheers for the upvotes to everyone who read this far. Glad to know most of us are sane. I’m logging out for the night.
I guess if you do not have the ability to recognize that people can use experience and material resources to manipulate…
Ahh yes, homosexual relationships are exactly like a 50 year old millionaire dating a 19 year old. It’s so obvious!
Damn, poor Billy aged 6 years just so you could double-down on your ridiculous point.
But why stop at romantic relationships? Every relationship has the potential for manipulation. It’s only fair that 19-year olds only interact with other 19-year olds with similar socioeconomic backgrounds. Otherwise, they could be manipulated to do all manner of things!
I guess I should be accurate with numbers… Lord wouldn’t it sound bad if 44 year old was dating a 13 year old.
And you are saying all relationships have the same impact on your life as a marriage or long term relationship? Or are you just asking incredibly dumb questions?
Speaking from personal experience, many of my non-romantic friendships have had as great or greater impact on my life than did my long-term romantic relationships. I don’t think that’s so uncommon.
But the impact isn’t really the point. The point comes back to agency. Does a 19-year old have agency? You’re effectively saying that they do not, because they’re easily manipulated by experience and material resources. I’m saying that, while that’s possible, it’s also possible that a 19-year old sees someone who is more experienced and has material resources and decides that’s a good enough reason to be in a romantic relationship. I mean, do you think sometime in the last 13 years that Chloe Mendel could have developed sufficient experience and material resources of her own such that she could have decided to leave? Or do you think that even as a 30-something woman she’s still being manipulated?
I don’t know if 18 is the right age to determine that someone is an adult, but I do think that once we draw that line, we can’t selectively decide what’s good and bad for them. I don’t think you can say an 18-year old shouldn’t be allowed to decide who they want to fuck while also saying they can vote and decide which politician gets to fuck us. Like, if you think a 19-year old is so easily manipulated, then they certainly shouldn’t be allowed to vote because they could be manipulated by some 44-year old into voting against their best interest, right? This is the slippery slope to which I was referring.
I understand the POV that people feel like a 19-year old is being taken advantage of. If a 43-year old started dating my 18-year old niece, I would be pretty disappointed. But if they were genuinely happy together, who am I to stand in their way? This is also the analogy to queer relationships: just because it elicits a disgust reaction in someone doesn’t mean it’s morally wrong. I understand your point is different here in that the power imbalance is the potential problem, and it’s an argument that has merit. But it’s also well within the spectrum of possibility that Mendel and Corgan are genuinely happy together, and who are you to tell them that they can’t be?
You’re talking about emotional impact alone. Someone who lives with you, shares a bank account with you, and owns property with you obviously has more ability to control you and abuse you.
Are you trying to claim someone cannot dilute someone else’s agency? that’s the whole problem with a power imbalance in a relationship, that your partner can use their power to isolate you from your agency.
Again my criticism isn’t about the decisions made by the person who just legally became an adult, it’s on the older person.
Do you think that people always leave bad relationships when thing become unhealthy?
When did I say I wanted to do that?
Again… When did I say that? What I said is this guy is gross, immature, and wants to take advantage of young women.
19 years old should vote because the laws are pertinent to their present and future…
That is a big “if” you are relying on. What if that 43 year old was love bombing them and telling you on the side that they were going to eventually leave them a broken mess? How often do you think these relationships are genuine compared to predatory. How do you tell the difference in the beginning?
You can literally validate any abusive relationship with that same thinking because it’s made to exclude context.
“Just because slavery elicits a disgust reaction in someone doesn’t mean it’s morally wrong.”
When did I say they can’t be happy. What I said is that he is a disgusting and predatory man.