I have a girlfriend. She’s sweet, but she ALWAYS talks over me when i’m upset to change the subject or to tell me to look at a cat video or Bluey or Hazbin Hotel funny clips.
i feel so bad for saying this, but when i tried to tell her i was struggling with depression, it took like 3 tries to get her to listen, and all she said was to just be happy and smile.
today, i tried to tell her one of my grandpas died recently and she just talked over me about funny videos and tiktok. even if i tell her to listen, she does‘t or starts getting sad, so even when she says i can tell her anything, i don’t often. Am i in the wrong for that?
Also, she sends laughing emojis when I tell her something like “I have a PTSD diagnosis” on the topic of mental health, and she constantly puts herself down and asks me to give her reasons why she’s a good girlfriend and not “stupid and ugly”.
Exactly. Having your needs unfulfilled in a relationship drains your love tank.
When the person who has been draining your love tank suddenly needs a fill-up and finds out you are empty, then disaster is the only possible outcome.
It’s easy to care for someone when you have reserves.
But if she consistently demonstrates that she is not going to fill your love tank, then even if you care for her, it’s better to let her go, because otherwise at some point, something is going to happen, and it’s going to be far worse for the both of you.
I know this is advice for OP, but thank you for putting it so clearly. I needed to hear this too
And I hope it helps someone else as well