I have a girlfriend. She’s sweet, but she ALWAYS talks over me when i’m upset to change the subject or to tell me to look at a cat video or Bluey or Hazbin Hotel funny clips.
i feel so bad for saying this, but when i tried to tell her i was struggling with depression, it took like 3 tries to get her to listen, and all she said was to just be happy and smile.
today, i tried to tell her one of my grandpas died recently and she just talked over me about funny videos and tiktok. even if i tell her to listen, she does‘t or starts getting sad, so even when she says i can tell her anything, i don’t often. Am i in the wrong for that?
Also, she sends laughing emojis when I tell her something like “I have a PTSD diagnosis” on the topic of mental health, and she constantly puts herself down and asks me to give her reasons why she’s a good girlfriend and not “stupid and ugly”.
The girlfriend sounds really childish. To the point I’m wondering if these are very young people, like early teens. If so it isn’t that that don’t care, it’s that they’re very immature and don’t know how to deal with anything uncomfortable and just shove it out of the way and move on to what they can easily distract themselves with.
If this person is an adult, I’m very concerned about their maturity level, becuase it sounds really stunted.
15 and 16, high school
Do not base your next step on advise from the Internet! Talk to people you trust! Your love is young and you both will make a lot of mistakes and thats ok. Give the talking part of the relationship more time. Stay kind and fair to her and yourself. Be ready to learn. If you want to work for the relationship, work. If you dont, be honest about it.
You presume they have someone they trust. Many of us didn’t at that age, or at all
There are social workers all around the world and of course not every single one of them is great but many are.
Social workers existing does not mean people have people they trust. What are you trying to say?
Those people are trained to support people in any situation and are inclined to be trustworthy by their professional ethics.
Its their job to help people in this situations.
You’re doing well by being open enough to ask and learn.
You’re gonna make some mistakes, and you’re also gonna be right and prove the world wrong sometimes.