The more I hear people talk about it who aren’t cis-het men, the more I hear criticism about the concept. But so far, I’ve only heard people say that it’s stupid, that it’s not a thing, that it’s men’s own fault etc. But I’ve yet to understand where that criticism comes from. I don’t want to start a discussion on whether or not it’s real or not. I just want to understand where the critics are coming from.
You didnt do anything wrong if you were being yourself. I know it sounds corny but just being the best version of you is the best thing you can do, and if someone ghosts you like that they did you a favor. You dont want to be with someine like that; you just eant to be with the idea of the person you thought they were.
Still a bummer, but dont let a jerk define who you are.