I’m often disappointed with myself when I’m angry. It feels like, “a stronger person wouldn’t be mad at this” or “I’m fragile/insecure”. Anger has been the hardest emotion to live with; it just feels wrong.
I always need external validation from others during/after anger. And worse, I need an endless supply of it.
Learning to validate myself is the obvious solution but I don’t have a clue where to start. A self-help book would just sit on a shelf. Do you have any tips?
Do you think it might be simpler for them to look for the trailheads as an easier introduction to IFS?
Trailheads honestly seem to me to be the simplest path to getting into IFS and its such a practical, simple practice…
Thats what almost immediatey clicked for me, very commonsense but also not necessarily immediately intuitive if you were trying to work it out from scratch