You don’t like “Bro-culture”. That’s a description of a specific sort of gross social movement. You are extending that dislike to a ubiquitous word that only has that connotation when used as a descriptor of “Bro-culture-Bros”.
The word itself and it’s common usage have nothing to do with that, it’s one of the most commonly used, informal, globally-colloquial expressions in our current era.
It’s like getting mad at the word right cause it’s part of right-wing, and people use it all the time to indicate direction which is causing a rise of global fascism. It’s not just silly, it’s a common reason for you to have an argument with a person.
It’s not an opinion, it’s a little loaded argument gun you always have cocked, it’s really silly and obvious you just like to argue and this is a pit trap full of sharpened spikes. Grow up.
That’s just one reason. Another reason I don’t like “bro” is because it’s often used as a diminisher. Chill out, bro. Don’t take it so seriously, bro. It’s shorthand for brushing someone off, trivializing their feelings, or cutting them down while pretending it’s casual. That dynamic doesn’t build respect—it erodes it.
Also, “bro” creates a sense of fake familiarity. It gets used to imply closeness that isn’t there, as if a single word can override the need for trust or mutual understanding. That kind of assumed intimacy often feels presumptive and even manipulative, especially in spaces where people don’t know each other well.
So basically there’s three solid reasons to not allow bro-talk.
There’s one reason to use the word “bro”, which I find perfectly acceptable: if someone is a literal sibling. Otherwise, you don’t need it. It shouldn’t be in your vocabulary.
Be that as it may, you may disagree. In which case there’s several Lemmy servers in which it’s perfectly allowable—but not mine.
EDIT: And while we’re at it, there’s two more reasons to avoid bro-talk:
Even if meant positively, it’s exclusionary
Assumes gender, magnifying the risk of misgendering
I’m not stepping in your stupid, childish, argument trap, you are doing this because you like typing all these words. Again grow the hell up and maybe give your wrist a break.
I empathize and agree with a lot of your points. I see where your coming from. I do find a lot of “bro” talk to come across really cringe.
However, I think you are making an error by banning people for it. If ultimately you’re goal is to build communities and have interesting conversations, then banning people for what is socially widely accepted removes the ability to build connections and learn from others from a wide swath of people. You are essentially quarantining yourself and closing yourself off from others by drawing very innocuous lines in the sand. You’re limiting your community to only people that are okay with incredibly controlled language and incredibly controlled communities. This diminishes your ability to learn from others, have interesting conversations, and be challenged by new information. A lot of people that might otherwise want to make a connection with you, will find such a strict line so ridiculous they will discount everything else you say because they find you to be so unreasonable.
Also, not everyone uses bro as a deminisher or even gendered, many people do see themselves as being siblings to everyone, all humans are family and saying “bro” is a way of reminding others that we are all connected. You are ultimately harming yourself more than anyone else.
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You don’t like “Bro-culture”. That’s a description of a specific sort of gross social movement. You are extending that dislike to a ubiquitous word that only has that connotation when used as a descriptor of “Bro-culture-Bros”.
The word itself and it’s common usage have nothing to do with that, it’s one of the most commonly used, informal, globally-colloquial expressions in our current era.
It’s like getting mad at the word right cause it’s part of right-wing, and people use it all the time to indicate direction which is causing a rise of global fascism. It’s not just silly, it’s a common reason for you to have an argument with a person.
It’s not an opinion, it’s a little loaded argument gun you always have cocked, it’s really silly and obvious you just like to argue and this is a pit trap full of sharpened spikes. Grow up.
That’s just one reason. Another reason I don’t like “bro” is because it’s often used as a diminisher. Chill out, bro. Don’t take it so seriously, bro. It’s shorthand for brushing someone off, trivializing their feelings, or cutting them down while pretending it’s casual. That dynamic doesn’t build respect—it erodes it.
Also, “bro” creates a sense of fake familiarity. It gets used to imply closeness that isn’t there, as if a single word can override the need for trust or mutual understanding. That kind of assumed intimacy often feels presumptive and even manipulative, especially in spaces where people don’t know each other well.
So basically there’s three solid reasons to not allow bro-talk.
There’s one reason to use the word “bro”, which I find perfectly acceptable: if someone is a literal sibling. Otherwise, you don’t need it. It shouldn’t be in your vocabulary.
Be that as it may, you may disagree. In which case there’s several Lemmy servers in which it’s perfectly allowable—but not mine.
EDIT: And while we’re at it, there’s two more reasons to avoid bro-talk:
I’m not stepping in your stupid, childish, argument trap, you are doing this because you like typing all these words. Again grow the hell up and maybe give your wrist a break.
I empathize and agree with a lot of your points. I see where your coming from. I do find a lot of “bro” talk to come across really cringe.
However, I think you are making an error by banning people for it. If ultimately you’re goal is to build communities and have interesting conversations, then banning people for what is socially widely accepted removes the ability to build connections and learn from others from a wide swath of people. You are essentially quarantining yourself and closing yourself off from others by drawing very innocuous lines in the sand. You’re limiting your community to only people that are okay with incredibly controlled language and incredibly controlled communities. This diminishes your ability to learn from others, have interesting conversations, and be challenged by new information. A lot of people that might otherwise want to make a connection with you, will find such a strict line so ridiculous they will discount everything else you say because they find you to be so unreasonable.
Also, not everyone uses bro as a deminisher or even gendered, many people do see themselves as being siblings to everyone, all humans are family and saying “bro” is a way of reminding others that we are all connected. You are ultimately harming yourself more than anyone else.
And you’ve fallen in the pit